We are all making the most out of this time. Things are different and we are just doing our best. Of course virtual training is not an ideal experience, but it is still a viable option. The beauty is that on the other side of our WiFi connection, there are real people that we are connecting with. In virtual one-on-one sessions there is a real relationship being enhanced and maintained every single session. Even though we have all been doing our best to adapt to this new way of living, there are still things that we struggle through and will continue to struggle through for a very long time.
I miss the days that you could just go to a grocery store and walk-in. Lines are ok if you are waiting to go on your favorite ride in a theme park and there is an excitement that builds, but not so much when you are just trying to buy your favorite produce and everyday groceries. It is so easy to have drive when you are excited about life. There are things in life that motivate us like going to our favorite workout class and being around all that positive energy. We can go to our favorite restaurants and have food, wine, and talk for hours. As much as I love training at home and using kettlebells, dumbbells, and body weight, those workouts sometimes do not compare to the barbells, cables, and other equipment in the gym. So even though things are different, how do we still give life our best shot? How do we find that drive?
Make Your Goals a Journey, Not a Destination
The book Passion Paradox, by Brad Stulberg and Steve Magness, describes dopamine as the molecule of desire and motivation. When talking about dopamine, they say “We don’t get hooked on the feeling associated with achievement, we get hooked on the feeling associated with the chase.” Since our ancestors were hunter-gatherers, they had to keep stock up to be prepared for times of scarcity. Which led us to never be satisfied and to keep pushing forward. This amazing neurochemical that we have called dopamine is responsible for us wanting to achieve our goals, but also for creating new ones when we reach them.
Set goals to reach, but do not stop setting new ones. If you set a goal to lose 5 lbs, then what happens when you reach that? Sometimes you might lose motivation completely. But if your goal is to be the most fit then you ever have been, then when you lose that weight you will keep pushing onward to the next goal. The work is never fully finished.
Don’t Create Rewards, Create Enjoyment
It is natural to think rewards would teach us to elicit better behavior. However in Daniel Pink’s book, Drive, he talks about how that is not always the case. Rewards can actually negatively affect creativity and performance. Sometimes we can get so focused on a reward that we lose sight of the task itself. Sometimes we might bribe ourselves with rewards to bring out our best. But in actuality, we are going to bring out our best when we just enjoy what we are doing. If you want to get in better shape, fall in love with the act of moving more and cooking food that is healthy and tasty. Take a deep breath and bring yourself back to the moment and embrace it. Make the little moments in your journey matter.
Keep Asking Questions
So you wanna start working out. Why is that important to you? How would that affect you? Who else would be affected when you take better care of your health? What kind of change are you looking to see? Why is now the perfect time?
Your mind wants to solve questions. Keep asking yourself the right ones. Ask the questions that are going to help you find the motivation you need. You are going to have more drive when you can involve emotion and when your goals affect other people other than yourself.
Drive is going to help you reach your personal best in all aspects of your life. Drive is going to help you bring out the best in other people. Drive is going to help you understand your true capabilities. Drive does not always come naturally, but we can learn how to manifest it.